'Love my child' syndrome

I have been meaning to share this for a long time.

Children learn more from what they see than from what they are told. It's simple. It's natural. It's proven, time and again.

Parents, who are always hovering over their kids during playtime, who are always micro-managing their kids' schoolwork, who are constantly under the pressure to 'fix' everything with the kids' teachers, who are guarding their kids fiercely against anything 'unfair', end up fighting with the other adults in their children's lives more often than not.

Parents who make sure that the world treats their kids with special attention end up creating a sense of entitlement in their kids. Such kids may find it very difficult to not get the first chance to speak in the class. They may find it their right to push someone off the swing. They may hit when things don't go their way.

Parents who cannot accept that their kids are special to them and not to the world just end up fighting with the world. Their kids are watching them, learning the harsh language, learning the imposition of personal demands.

Such kids end up learning 'me first'. They lose their boundaries.

Such kids are not go-getters. They misbehave.

I hope it sinks in.